Well, I'm a little lost here..., Confused and saddened, and I don't know what to say Options

[Scorch]

Today my girlfriend tells me that there is another man in her life... What am I to do?

These were her words: "Chris, You know I love you, but there is another guy I know that I like a LOT. I knew I had to tell you eventually." Eventually? So it had been going on for some time then?

I told her that I'm lost. "Why do you like him?" I asked. "Is he just better, or did I do something to dissapoint you?" She tells me that she doesn't know. Then she says she hardly knows the guy! I'm told that he's a friend of mine, but no one will tell me who. I haven't even been hinted. You know what depression is like? You can't think straight, you don't know what to do, you feel like your gut just wants to leap out, and you feel like the world is out to get you. This is what I'm mostly feeling now.

"I still like you a Lot, and I still want to be with you." She says. You just told me you liked another guy, how can I know you're not just telling me this to make me feel better? Her friends tell me that she "loves" the guy, and she's always trying to be near him. I've asked several times, "Does she truly dislike me now?" The answer has always been yes.

She tells me that she would never break up with me. Her friends tell me that she doesn't want to be with me. I know that I should believe her, but I can't. I simply can't! I am too insecure with myself, and I hate so many aspects about myself. My mind is clogged with thoughts and ideas, hatred but sadness. If I can't even trust myself, then how can I trust someone who has just told me that she's in love with a friend of mine?

I asked her a few minutes before I began writing this. "Would you ever break up with me for another man?" She said she would never break up with me, but I just need that reassurance. She tells me a different story now. "I don't know." I'm heartbroken at such a simple response!

My best friend that I have known for many years is not around to help me. Though we live in different parts of the country, he always has something to say to make me feel better during a hard time in my life. When my dad went into Iraq and nearly lost his life several times, he was there for me. He's gone now, to where I don't know.

My other friends are urging me to find out who she likes and just kill him. (Not literally.) I can't bring myself to do it. It isn't me. If she likes another man, then it's okay with me. I don't control her life, and I'm not going to stop her from what she wants. I've told her a long time ago that no matter what, even if we hated each other, that I will always be there for her if she needed help. I need help now, and she offers nothing but pain.

My friends are no help, they simply want violence. I'm a man of peace, not a man of hate. My best friend is nowhere to be found, but I think I can understand that. He has also been having problems as of late. I cannot bring myself to talk to family though too. My brother simply does not understand, and I believe my sister is too young to care. My parents simply do not listen to me and see things they want them to be.

I have spoken to several people to help me with my problem, and they have helped a little. I need more than that. I've come here with the understanding that this small community can help me. This isn't like other sites, here, people actually respect you. I find that rare today.




I'm lost and confused. I'm angered, but that is outweighed by confusion. Maybe if she had just told me why, then maybe I wouldn't be in such a state. I understand that I may be overreacting a little, and maybe this will just all blow over, but if what my heart is telling me is the truth, she doesn't want me anymore.

I trust her when she tells me that she still likes me, but I've come here with the understanding that she likes him more now. Look at me, I'm a mental mess and I've let one of the best people I have ever known slip through my fingers like water. I can't trust myself and my friends offer little help.

I want your opinions. I want to know what you think. I need advice. For once, I truly need the help of a friend I don't know.

[0warfighter0]

Aftershock! No just kidding

And that, was the tough time Crashking mentioned

Happy to here you're fine!

This post has been edited by 0warfighter0: Sep 14 2008, 12:22 AM